What if you began to peel back a layer or two and look at it – examine it – see if it’s been cut or bruised or broken. To think about the “why” behind your reactions. Asking yourself: “Why do I feel xxxx every time I see someone do xxxxxx?” This is what it means to do healing work: to sift through all of our layers and dig down deep. It’s at this point that you have a choice to make: cover that layer back up, or heal it. Healing it will allow that layer to be repaired, leaving a stronger layer that becomes almost like an armor.
We tend to come up with a lot of different ways to avoid facing the truth about pain or the hurts in our lives. We may try to act as if it’s not even there. Breaking through denial means admitting that there’s something going on in our life and deciding to do the hard work of getting it out. What we have to remember is that nothing is solved if we were to throw all those layers and feelings and emotions away. You are not alone in this journey, but what you don’t reveal can’t be healed. Digging into the truth puts names to your feelings, connects your responses to experiences, and allows for your transformation and ultimate freedom from the pain you carry.